cocky sonofa…..

Overconfidence?

Is there such a thing? Is it a good thing or a bad thing?

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds”
– Albert Einstein.

This quote has played a very big role in my own self esteem and can really be very positive, while being very egotistical and counter-productive at the same time.

I often reflect back to Bill Gates when he decided to drop out of Harvard in order to pursue his dreams. Imagine what his guidance councilor’s reaction to this was? I have so many different scenarios playing in my head, most of which involves the councilor calling Bill F-ing crazy, insane and absolutely idiotic, not necessarily in that order. Bill Gates, and anyone who walks the halls of Harvard, is pretty much guaranteed a six figure income right off the bat. Yet, Bill decided to take the chance, follow his own heart and do his own thing. Today, he is the most financially secure person in the world.

But of course, we have to be realistic. We always hear about the amazing success stories but there are probably 10 failures for every victory. So how can one balance out between having our heads in the clouds but our feet on the ground?

Personally, I’ve always leaned toward taking the chance. Every mistake you make is one that you will learn from. Every mistake you make is one less mistake you will repeat.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one”
–Elbert Hubbard.

Yes this may sound too aggressive and outlandish, and yes it is so much easier said than done, especially when you consider having to invest your life savings into your new widget. But I’m not talking about gambling when the odds are stacked in the favor of the casino, no, not gambling, but taking calculated risks in life. There are ways to plan things out, to stack the odds in your favor.

The best way to point yourself in the right direction is to do EVERYTHING you can to ensure success. There are so many other factors that are out of your hands, and those are meant to be left alone. However, aspects that you can control should be researched, planned, understood, structured, studied, debated, marinated, contemplated, practiced, innovated, re-contemplated and any other buzzword you could think of! Oh, and do come up with a plans A, B, C and D.

So far, you need to have confidence and believe in yourself then do everything you can to head towards the right direction. What’s next? What *now?* (*refer back to first blog post.)

“Now”, you have to listen.

Listening is a virtue. It’s so easily said, so frequently misused and too often forgotten.

Overconfidence only happens, when one forgets to listen. When one tunes out everyone else and only hears what you want to hear. You don’t have to agree or disagree with anyone, but you have to listen.

How do you listen? Well you need to be patient with the people who give you advice, but be careful whose advice you take.

There’s one more really, really important thing I need to tell you, which would pretty much make everything I said make so much more sense… it is the key to balancing your confidence….. it is something that one of my greatest mentors had taught me…. Umm it goes something like….. ummmm….. I can’t really remember it….. ahhhhh I wasn’t really listening….

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8 Responses to “cocky sonofa…..”
  1. Emilee 31 January 2008 at 1:55 am #

    I love that saying, “there is a difference between hearing & listening”…most people use hearing instead of listening…

    Good post Vincenzo, iLike.

    ps. Isn’t patience a virtue?

    iLike to think listeing is a gift everyone has but it is not often used.

  2. Joshua 31 January 2008 at 12:53 pm #

    Vince, Loving your new blog keep up the good work. I would like to point out that even if you do everything you can to succeed, you may still fail, I think first of all you have define success for yourself. Oh BTW, I loved the marinate reference, that made me laugh.

  3. Christina Tyndall 3 February 2008 at 4:11 am #

    Hey Mr. I really liked your blog 🙂 Well actually I pretty much like and support all that you do lol! I loved that you quoted my favorite part of A Peaceful Warrior. It is such a great movie! Here is the leadership quote I’ve been raving so much about…

    A Wish for Leaders…

    I sincerely wish you will have the experience of thinking up a new idea, planning it, organizing it, and following it to completion, and then have it magnificently successful. I also hope you’ll go through the same process and have something “bomb out.”

    I wish you could know how it feels “to run” with all your heart and lose… horribly. I wish that you could achieve some great good for mankind, but have nobody know about it except you.

    I wish you could find something so worthwhile that you deem it worthy of investing your life within it.

    I hope you become so frustrated and challenged enough to begin to push back the very barriers of your own personal limitations.

    I hope you make a stupid mistake and get caught red handed and are big enough to say those magic words: “I was wrong.”

    I hope you give so much of yourself that some days you wonder if its worth the effort.

    I wish for you a magnificent obsession that will give you reason for living and purpose and direction and life.

    I wish for you the worst kind of criticism for everything you do, because that makes you fight to achieve beyond what you normally would.

    I wish for you the experience of leadership.

    -Earl Reum

    I think that this is my new favorite quote! It’s everything I really want to feel in life 🙂 And reading it really made me think of you and how you are always trying to challenge those around you to be better while motivating and inspiring them to want to be 🙂 I love you BB.

  4. Shalomie 5 February 2008 at 3:19 am #

    Enjoyed the post Mr. Golangco 🙂

  5. Robin Gerlach 22 February 2008 at 10:37 pm #

    I love the use of the word ‘marinate’ in here Vinny. Another great post. Have you felt uncomfortable today? If not, you’re not pushing the boundaries. You’re making each moment count Mr. G, much respect.

  6. Clomid 13 August 2009 at 4:43 pm #

    well written!

  7. sandra742 9 September 2009 at 9:27 pm #

    Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. 🙂 Cheers! Sandra. R.

  8. Juvan 23 October 2015 at 11:07 pm #

    Arltcies like this make life so much simpler.

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